In Healing Our Childhood Trauma We Must First Reclaim Our Lost Control.

Passivity drives us deeper into our past.

When trauma was imprinted in childhood, repetitive and interpersonal, the damage is profound and far reaching.

Sadly it’s often not until we are truly broken, deep into our adult years that we come to recognise or understand the true extent of damage owing to what happened in our infancy.

Victim-hood is an inevitability of trauma but feeling like a victim does not have to be a lifelong label, nor life-sentence. In actual fact, it mustn’t stay this way. As adults we are no longer victims of our childhood trauma, but survivors of it.

The ownership of our past tragedies gives us a springboard to first, resolve what was once intolerable, second and most importantly, to heal. No other human-being can do this for us. Ownership does not mean not holding our abusers to account — for that they must be; it does not mean either to minimize the extent of our suffering. No, ownership means to confront our history — acknowledge that we are now safe, and realise that we now have the psychological space to open and heal our deepest wounds.