Dear Beth, your article brings sadness and I really do feel your pain. It must be wretched to be estranged from your daughter.
I have cut my mother out of my life — and I know she too is in pain because of it. But it cannot simply be attributed to something that happened a long time ago. Because whatever that “something” is, it is still very much present for your daughter just as it is for me in my situation.
I hear that you want to own your ailings, and I wish you so much for this; I hope you get the opportunity to share this ownership with your girl. Sadly my mother does not want to own a thing — to her, everything is my fault, my doing. Such is life.
I really hope and pray for a reconciliation for you one day when your daughter is ready. Which by the way I have no doubt she will be, in her own good time.
Wishing you the Best, Amelie