… bumbling efforts to be a good mother. But, I feel that my daughter holds some responsibility, too. She has made a decision based on something that happened a long time ago. She has kept us both trapped in her version of the story, and I have no control over changing that…
Dear Beth, your article brings sadness and I really do feel your pain. It must be wretched to be estranged from your daughter.
I have cut my mother out of my life — and I know she too is in pain because of it. But it cannot simply be attributed to something that happened a long time ago. Because whatever that “something” is, it is still very much present for your daughter just as it is for me in my situation.
I hear that you want to own your ailings, and I wish you so much for this; I hope you get the opportunity to share this ownership with your girl. Sadly my mother does not want to own a thing — to her, everything is my fault, my doing. Such is life.
I really hope and pray for a reconciliation for you one day when your daughter is ready. Which by the way I have no doubt she will be, in her own good time.
Wishing you the Best, Amelie